Ok, so I’ve been a SAHM (Stay-at-home-mom) for 3 years now. I really enjoy being there for my kids everyday and all day. It’s a wonderful experience but it takes A LOT of patience. I mean a lot.
You have to prepare yourself to be alone all day with your little one. You’re probably like that’s easy… well it definitely is but as time goes on you will start to feel drained and alone.
You will start to feel like you are doing all the work and you will feel unnoticed. Your emotions will get the best of you.
Physically and Mentally prepare yourself.
You will definitely have to keep yourself busy. I know you’re like what do you mean keep myself busy? Well, aside from doing the a thousand things you gotta to do, you also have to find your me time or down time of the day. Your “hobby” as they call it. Whatever your hobby will be commit to it 100%.
Reverting back to your younger years
You will start realizing that your communication with others…well let’s say you forget all former grammar. I think that is why most successful sahmoms out there are writers. Pardon me if I’m wrong.
I personally do not know how to hold a conversation anymore. I’m usually repeating things over and over. My brain is constantly on “mom” function. Since my kids are 3 and 1 I’m either saying yes or no a thousand times…or repeating my 1 years olds “da da da” a thousand times.
Now when I try to hold a conversation immediate scatter brain. You start to feel that only your kids and your husband will only understand you. If you were never the social type anyway you are perfectly normal!
There’s a lot of adjusting when you become a SAHM.
- You don’t completely disconnect from society but sometimes you do end up being a ghost. I mean this by saying, you start to feel comfortable and no one will hear from you for a good while aside from family that you see every once in a while. We all know how hard it is to keep track of everyone but try to keep important people close. You’ll definitely need them in the long run
- You have to adjust to having your kid(s) 24/7. There’s no break what so ever, not a long enough one anyways. You will be around your kid(s) all day and everyday! Your sanity will reach a boiling point. That’s why having a hobby is important! Commit to it.
- Feeling alone is another issue that come with SAHM. It’s definitely not for everyone, if you’re the type that likes to go out EVERYDAY, you need to re-evaluate your choice for staying home. You can plan to go out with your child(ren) but the inevitable behavior they may project while you’re out will send you into a meltdown of anxiety!
- Use your time wisely. Sometimes it may feel like eternity when you’re alone with your kid(s) and that your spouse may never come home. It feels like that your first go around being a SAHM. When you start adjusting to the circumstances, that’s when your hobbies go into play. Find a game to play, clean house, go outside for a little while, clean house, take kid(s) to a park, work on hobby, clean house, cook, and lastly clean house. You’re always busy no matter what.
If you’re given the option to be a SAHM, try it out. It definitely eases your mind from the outside world. To only have your kid(s) drive you crazy everyday is a blessing. You only have to worry about- what time will your spouse get home and when you should get dinner started.
It’s given me the chance to raise my boys the way I want them to be raised. They’re not influenced by anything or anyone else yet. It’s also given me the option to homeschool, which I’ve thought about but we can get into that next time! My husband and I are stronger than ever. He’s my provider and I am his shelter. He comes home to me and I look forward to it everyday. I believe being a SAHM strengthened my relationship…it has build trust, communication, and loyalty. I have given my 100% and my husband has also and we both know that our jobs aren’t easy. We work together and it has been great ever since. I love that man soooooo much!!!
Plus, with being a SAHM you get to choose how everything and everyone plays a role in your family’s life. You start to see who’s actually there for you. You get to experience the growth of your child(ren) and also YOURSELF!
It always takes time.
It takes time to get the feeling of being alone out of your mind because you basically are. You feel trapped and that no one is there for you.
I’m telling you to stay positive!
Set goals that you want to achieve.
- Getting a new house
- Earning another type of income; work from home
- Going to school
- Creating a blog, vlog, or any other project
Always look for opportunities to build your future. You will have the time to think and you will have plenty of it. All the ideas that come in your head act upon it because it may get you to where you want to be! Everything takes time, and if you dream it, then believe it, you can achieve it.
I say this because that’s all you have to do. Relax your mind for the most part. It’s a crazy world and your kid(s) are better off in your care. Not many mothers out there get this wonderful opportunity!! It definitely has its days but we are strong people. Look for the bright side in everything that you do, only consider the negatives.
I’ve enjoyed my stay at home experience…I’m looking forward for a bright future for my kids!
Embrace yourself SAHM! It’s not just a dilemma, it’s also the greatest blessing!
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